My rainbow babygirl is three months old now. She is no longer a newborn by all standards and my heart is breaking. She’s growing up way too quickly, I just want time to slow down. I also want time to speed up to where she can talk to me and I actually understand what she’s saying. She does communicate now and sometimes I have a feeling I comprehend what she’s saying based on what’s going on and her facial expressions.
PrincessLydia is more than a dream come true. But parenting after loss….so much loss is very difficult. My anxiety is high sometimes, I’m very protective and attached to her. Being a therapist, I worry that this may grow to an unhealthy level but I can’t help it. I’ve longed for this for so long.
Sometimes when I look at PrincessLydia I see traces of her brothers, particularly Daxton. It’s just so unfair that the boys aren’t here. PrincessLydia is a trigger for me and that’s okay. I smile when I hold her but sometimes I cry. I miss the boys so much.
I see all the things PrincessLydia is doing and I wonder what it would have been like with the boys. She’s so smart, so advanced, so beautiful and so sassy.
Sometimes I apologize to her because I seriously don’t know what I’m doing and have probably made a ton of mistakes already. I second guess everything I do. But I’m so eager to learn. One day her bottle fell from my hand and hit her on the forehead leaving a mark and I literally cried for 25 minutes but she cried for just a few minutes. I’ve switched her formula a couple of times which I think made her constipation worse and seeing her in that much discomfort made me want to scream.
I worry about the future. I plan on spoiling my daughter and giving her anything she wants, I hope that she is still a good person. I plan on teaching her the right way to treat people. People matter, material things do not. But she is my only child and I plan on giving her the world. I hope I can discipline at the right moments because all I want to do is love this child of mine. I really hope she turns out well. She is my child so I know she may not be tactful until she’s in her 20s but that’s okay. I hope that she can see how hard I’ve worked and that she will be humble and always have faith.
People think the happiest day of my life has to be the day PrincessLydia was born. Nope, I was in pain and I don’t remember anything until two days later when I had to go into surgery again. The happiest day of my life was the day I brought my baby home from the hospital. Walking out of the hospital with a baby felt like winning a million dollars (or least what I imagine winning a million dollars would feel like). I felt victorious…..but I also lowly felt like it was a dream or that someone would come up to me and say I grabbed the wrong baby and that the one who belongs to me died. The anxiety of having a rainbow baby is like none other.
Never the less, I am so grateful and blessed to have this little girl. We will learn this being a mother and daughter duo thing together.